Fairytales

Last night after writing my blog post, I went to bed with a heavy heart.  I felt frustrated, boxed in and limited.  Trapped, even.  I went to bed, and couldn’t sleep.  The Lord very clearly gave me a Bible verse to go look at…which led me to all of the following.

Now, I typically don’t like to talk about relationships much (as a single lady).  I feel it teeters on a danger zone and can put your heart in a position it doesn’t need to be in.  However, I think I should share what was revealed to me last night, which will very much be about relationships.

As little girls, we are introduced to the fairytale: Princes and Princesses and happily ever after.  We get caught up in the idea that one day our Prince will come find us, and he’ll be perfect.  Then, we get older, and realize that maybe the fairytale doesn’t exist.  

•        Sometimes, the Princess sees a Prince (or any male in general) and, instead of waiting to see if he’ll come get her – she decides to go get him. Maybe he was looking for a different Princess.
•      Some Princesses just give up and are no longer on the lookout for their Prince. And, if he DOES find them, no one wants a Princess wallowing in self-pity or someone who’s bitter.
•        Other Princesses find out their Prince has been kissing all the other Princesses on Palace Avenue.
•        Yet still, some princesses decide they’ll do it on their own, because they don’t need a dumb Prince to help them. They’re independent and can do it their own way.
•        Princesses can decide that the Duke or Count (or, heck, in some cases, even the Stable Boy) is an okay alternative for a Prince. I mean, it’s not like there have been any Princes that have come through that part of the country.
•        Sometimes, the Prince isn’t all he’s portrayed himself to be. Maybe he’s arrogant and self-centered and only found the Princess to make himself look better. Sometimes, he stops trying once he’s got his Princess and becomes a lazy fool. Or many other numerous scenarios.

So, as this was playing out in my head, I thought, “Maybe referring to females as princesses is in poor taste and outdated.”  Besides, I’ve had friends obsessed with the princess/crown theme, which has definitely turned me off to the idea.  But, thinking further and barring any female that takes the princess theme to the extreme and becomes an entitled, self-centered diva, princess is right.

A princess is someone that has value.  She is cherished.  She is honored.  She is respected.  She is a leader.  She is important.  She is loved.  She is treasured.  She is influential.  Her words hold worth and weight.  And, as females we should view ourselves as such.

To tie this in to the verse the Lord gave me, He reminded me of the man who looked for the pearl.  “The kingdom of heaven is like treasure hidden in a field.  When a man found it, he hid it again, and then in his joy went and sold all he had and bought that field.  Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls.  When he found one of great value, he went away and sold everything he had and bought it.”

Matthew 13:44-46

I had always seen this as someone finding Jesus, or Him finding us.  But, the Lord told me that maybe I should consider myself as the pearl/treasure – I have NEVER considered myself as this.  Wait for the merchant [man] who will not only search for BUT recognize the pearl/treasure of great value [me].

So, I started looking up “treasure” and found many other Bible verses to support this.

“The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the Lord.”

-Proverbs 18:22

Then, in Song of Solomon, the bride is called his treasure numerous times.

“You have captured my heart, my treasure, my bride.  You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes, with a single jewel of your necklace.  Your love delights me, my treasure, my bride.  Your love is better than wine, your perfume more fragrant than spices.”

-Song of Solomon 4:9-10

“You are my private garden, my treasure, my bride, a secluded spring, a hidden fountain.”

-Song of Solomon 4:12

“I have entered my garden, my treasure, my bride!”

-Song of Solomon 5:1a

And, finally, what struck me the most:

“Such, O women of Jerusalem, is my lover, my friend.”

-Song of Solomon 5:16b

She doesn’t mean some some dude I just met.  Or some guy I think will be great to have children with.  Or this man who I could possibly make marriage work with.  But, he’s a friend.  This to me means someone you share commonality with, a comrade, buddy, and confidante.  It’s someone you enjoy spending time with and sharing your life with.  Someone to laugh with.  Now THAT’S what I want.  I’ll hold tight to the idea of fairytales and keep looking out my little window in the tower and be the Princess that actively waits for the Prince.  As my Aunt S said, “I’m GLAD you’re picky.” So am I…so am I.